Bernadette's Vision

In the last blog we focused on being clear of our intentions so we can create the life we desire. You should have a list of priorities, values and intentions. I promised I'd tell you what to do with that list.

Hopefully you have listed your priorities in order of importance, if not do that now. Next, make sure your values are listed in order of importance too. Next, go fill out this work/life balance calculator. (Hint I use the leisure category for activities with my family, friends and hobbies. Because I have no commute, I use the commute column for time spent meditating and pursuing spiritual growth. You can substitute whatever your desire.)

Now that you've completed the calculator, compare the time spent on activities versus time spent on things you call priorities. If that is off balance in accordance to your listed priorities, you need to schedule differently and intently. For instance, if I say Family is important but only spend 4 hours a week with them, I'm not living in accordance to my priorities. I will then adjust my schedule so that my priorities are in balance. Play with your schedule to find one that lines up with your priorities.

Next, look at your value list. I value life, integrity, honesty, openness, trust and compassion. I must look at myself honestly to see if what I value most, I'm living and projecting in my own life. If I value honesty but don't live an honest life, I'm not fulfilling my own expectations. Whatever you value, you must project so as to remove all inner conflict. As you line your life up with your values, you will find you are surrounded by others who also hold the same values. If you value trust, but you are in a relationship that is not trustworthy, you must decide just how much you value it.

Living in conflict with our values and priorities cause a great deal of inner turmoil. Our lives then become a chaotic, reactive, drama instead of a life of peace. It also creates a lack of personal integrity with those closest to us. If you tell your partner you value relationship over work, but always choose work before the relationship, you are lying. You are either lying to yourself or your partner. In either case, you have created unnecessary tension for yourself. If you are teaching your kids the importance of family yet you don't make time spent with family a priority, you are sending a mixed message to your children. Again, you are either lying to yourself or them.

Correct your schedule, align to your own personal values and priorities. I promise if you live in accordance with your true values, your life will be a life of joy, love and abundance!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Blessings,
Bernadette Dickinson

_Did you wake up this morning ready to clean the Christmas mess? I got a head start and started cleaning last night. Our celebration was intimate and small so we didn't have much to clean. I just have to take the tree down but I'm enjoying the soft lights at night, so I may leave it for a week more.

As the year winds down it's time to think about your intentions and path for 2012. What you want, who should be there, where you want to go, all things to consider. For instance, I am determined to lose some 'Thyroid' weight and plan to do a Green Smoothie Fast as well as start a new workout routine.

Being clear on our intentions is mandatory if we want to create the life we desire. Start your list of priorities, values and intentions. Right before New Years Eve I will post a blog about what to do with that list.

For today, just start your list and add to it as the week progresses.

Blessings,
Bernadette

Real questions I've been asked.

1. "It's been 5 years, is he coming back?"
2. "We have been having an affair for a year, when is he going to leave his wife?"
3. "Who's my baby's daddy?"
4. "Should I wear the red or blue dress?"
5. After the first date "Is he going to marry me?"
6. "I met her at her work, is she going to stop being a stripper for me?"
7. "Is he going to stop cheating?"
8. "I've texted him like 20 times and left 10 messages today, when is he going to reply?"
9. "Am I going to ever lose weight?"
10. "What's the winning lotto numbers"

Yes its true I get asked these questions all the time. They are funny sometimes, but not always. If you have to ask, you need me to be your Life Coach not your Psychic.

Happy Holidays!!

__ Everyday our lives act as a mirror for us to truly see where we need to grow and where we need to give. Relationships provide a very personal mirror to the beliefs, attitudes and points of growth within us.

When things are flowing smoothly it’s easy to see beauty and express love. When things begin to become conflicted and full of turmoil we tend to blame others, circumstances and events for our unhappiness. During the times when things are challenging, we have the biggest opportunity to grow.

How others relate to us can be a very big mirror. When others seem hostile, angry or selfish we want to point blame. We in turn get defensive and can easily see their faults and faulty beliefs. How often do we stop our judgments of others and ask ourselves “What do I have to learn from this about myself”?

In romantic relationships we are quick to feel injured, rejected, abandoned and rejected when the object of our desire doesn’t respond in accord with our desires. In turn we withdraw, disconnect or retaliate. This energy only perpetuates our negative feelings and can destroy a relationship quickly.

Daily practice of mindfulness and meditation can create conscious and loving behaviors in you and in turn those around you.

When things around you begin to feel chaotic, overwhelming or just dissatisfying ask these questions:

            What am I projecting to others and my environment?

            What am I thinking about this situation or person?

            How can I change my thoughts and feelings about this to reflect love?

            What Am I really upset about?

            What can I give to someone else that I feel I am lacking?

When you begin to clarify how you feel, and shift to a place of love for yourself and others, you will instantly see a shift of energy. Sometimes that means allowing others to feel angry, sad or take time alone. Allowing others the freedom to express themselves fully is the ultimate act of love. If they are being abusive then it is up to you to stay a safe distance from them. Know you can’t change someone and accept you can only change yourself.

I will be posting communication techniques in upcoming blogs. Until then, Happy Living!!


Blessings,
Bernadette
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I'm pretty excited for this month! Yup it's my birthday, the big 45! I have been doing some exciting work and learning some new skills to add to some old under used skills. I'll be sharing with you later this month.

This month Jupiter returns to it's direct station in Sag on December 25th. Thankfully Mercury Retrograde ends on December 14th.

The 11-11-11 activation has proven to be super helpful in moving to higher levels of consciousness and love. I hope you are all enjoying the push forward that the Universe is offering.

Until next time,
Bernadette