RULES FOR COMMUNICATING

Author Bernadette Dickinson

Resolving conflicts is never easy but if we don’t communicate we will not have fulfilling relationships. The following is a list of rules to communicate fairly with your partner.

Do’s

Express yourself openly in “I FEEL” statements
Take responsibility for your own feelings and actions.
Speak softly and be affectionate while telling your partner how you feel.
Be direct, honest and sincere.
Praise your partner for what they do for you.
Tell your partner what you love about them.
Ask your partner for what you need.
Accept and love your partner as he/she is.
Listen carefully to what your partner is saying.
Validate what your partner is saying and feeling.
Make compromises to meet halfway.
Allow your partner time to digest the information you are giving them.
Give your partner permission to express themselves.

Don’ts

Don’t verbally attack your partner.
Don’t point the finger of blame for how you feel.
Don’t manipulate or cause guilt in your partner.
Don’t expect your partner to read your mind.
Don’t expect your partner to understand things the way you do.
Don’t expect your partner to communicate the way you do.
Don’t tell your partner what to do.
Don’t lie or hide things from your partner.
Don’t invalidate your partner’s feelings.
Don’t keep a scorecard from the past.

Relationships are the learning ground from which we grow the most. We experience the Love of The Creator when we engage with others at the core of our being. If you can remember that within your relationship you are to experience the Love and Face of The Creator, you will always be respectful, loving and sincere.

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